We hear it the entire time and sometimes we say it as well: damn, they are so lucky, they have a car, they have a job, a partner, children, beauty, money….etc…their life is perfect…If I could have their life I will certainly be happy.
We are just slaves of our envy and jealousy and no matter what we have, we always look around to monitor and spot what we don’t have, to envy people, to crave what is not even suitable for us sometimes, not compatible, not applicable but we just want it!
Regardless that no matter what are the circumstances, you shouldn’t envy or be jealous, even if some people are born with a golden spoon and others extremely poor, even if some people didn’t work for what they have and others have nothing despite all the hard work, we shouldn’t envy! As hard at it seems but it’s only a waste of energy and time.
But I’m writing this post to tell you that regardless the above mentioned, next time you envy someone and you hate them for jealousy reasons remember:
This car was purchased after years of pain and sweat, years of public transportation, taxis, hitchhiking, walking long distances in cold and hot, legs and back ache.
This body is shaped because of the hard work out, the continuous exercising and the healthy choices albeit the very busy schedule, the physical and mental pain!
This job has been granted and maintained because of the hard work and dedication and after many failures, up and downs, jobless days or months or years, debt! After a time when the market’s visit was a very big privilege!
This house is available after years of sharing apartments, fake and unwelcoming relatives accommodation, bad neighborhood, stupid and annoying roommates!
These hangouts, parties and leisure time in fancy restaurants or pubs or else, are after years of eating on the go, sitting in free public places to save money and some days eating only bread because this was the only food available to eat!
This smile is shining after nights of sadness, depression and gloom! It’s a choice to be strong and fierce and shine no matter how dark the nights can get.
Next time you envy someone, remember that people don’t hold signs on their faces mentioning their struggle!
You see the result and you’re oblivious of the journey and struggle, of the sacrifices that have been made throughout the journey, the tears that have been shed, the hard work and the sleepless nights, the love that has been lost, the dreams that have been postponed, the dear people’s company that has been compromised, the time that has passed and we couldn’t stop it.
You know nothing but the stupid appearances and believe me dear appearances can be so deceiving!
Don’t perpetuate in hate and envy, it’s a total waste of time, as futile as catching the air in your hand, it’s ugly and gruesome.
Time is valuable, just use it to embrace and love what you have, to improve and enhance your life, to create and shape a unique personality, and if you’re not satisfied with your life, get up and change it instead of watching and envying others.
Thank you for reading! Please share your thoughts and opinions.
Huguette Antoun – March 18th 2019